MYMA Power Up: Healing

In this week's MYMA Power Up, Mrs. Penton talks about the importance of healing. In our Martial Arts training, we talk about the importance of having balance in our physical and mental training. Just as we take time for our body to rest and recover after injury, we need to take time and get help for our emotional wounds - whether they're caused by grief, bullying or other challenges in our lives. 

 

We'd love to hear your strategies for self-care and healing in your daily life!

For information about our classes and programs visit:

www.TitusvilleATA.com or call (321) 383 - 4600

Mrs. Penton mentions this article in her talk:

The Average Mom Reportedly Works the Equivalent of 2 full-time jobs per week

You can check out Maggie's blog On the Banks

Podcast 16: How to Lose Gracefully

Welcome to a special video episode of the My Coffee Break Podcast!

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Stay in Touch:

To learn more about our academy, Master Yourself Martial Arts in Titusville, Florida visit www.TitusvilleATA.com

Check out Maggie's personal blog On the Banks where she discusses her strategies for being a black belt parent and finding balance in her life. 

If you have questions or comments about today's episode, email us at TitusvilleATA@gmail.com or visit us on

Facebook @MasterYourselfMartialArts

Twitter @TitusvilleATA

Instagram @maggie.penton or @mr_penton

Special Thanks to our Black Belt Sponsor: Core Electric

Podcast 15: Finding Your Life's Purpose

In this episode of the My Coffee Break Podcast, hosts Daniel and Maggie discuss strategies and ideas that will help you Master the Basics of your every day life. 

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This week, they discuss a challenging, but basic idea, that everyone must grapple with - what is the purpose of your life. Daniel discusses his path to Martial Arts and the failures that helped him find meaningful work and purpose in his life. 

Topics: 

How Failure can be a catalyst for positive growth.

How you can find meaning in any work you do by doing it well and contributing to others.

The fantasy of escaping to a place where your problems don't exist.

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Other Resources:

Brene Brown

The Defining Decade by Meg Jay

Meg Jay's Ted Talk

Daniel and Maggie discuss raktajino, a fictional Klingon Coffee from the Star Trek television series. Here is a collection of Klingon drink recipes including a few raktajino recipes! Might have to try them...

Stay in Touch:

To learn more about our academy, Master Yourself Martial Arts in Titusville, Florida visit www.TitusvilleATA.com

Check out Maggie's personal blog On the Banks where she discusses her strategies for being a black belt parent and finding balance in her life. 

If you have questions or comments about today's episode, email us at TitusvilleATA@gmail.com or visit us on

Facebook @MasterYourselfMartialArts

Twitter @TitusvilleATA

Instagram @maggie.penton or @mr_penton

Special Thanks to our Black Belt Sponsor: Core Electric

Podcast 12: Build Trust

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On this podcast we discuss black belt parenting strategies, lessons we've learned from owning and operating our Martial Arts Academy, Master Yourself Martial Arts, and our love of Songahm Taekwondo.

We hope that whether or not you're a black belt, business owner or parent, you will join us on our journey to Master the Basics of our every day life!

This week, Maggie and Daniel discuss building trust as a parent, as a business owner, and in their Martial Arts Training.

Black Belt Parenting: Building Cooperation through Explanation

1) State the Obvious and Expect to Repeat yourself

  • Need help talking to your kids about difficult topics? Amaze Parents offers some great tips and resources for parents. 

2) Give your child choices that you’re okay with 

  •      Remember that threats are not the same as choices

3)  If you’re getting stuck on some step, get your child moving, and come back to it later

4) Accept your child’s feelings without letting your feelings get hurt

 

Photo by AshleyWiley/iStock / Getty Images

Photo by AshleyWiley/iStock / Getty Images

Running a Black Belt Business

  • Be an expert at what you need to be an expert in
  • Give and get referrals - a customer referral helps other people have an unbiased idea of whether or not they want to use a product or service. 
  • Admit mistakes and make them right

Building Trust in your Martial Arts Training

  • Don't be a hater, be a tester

Martial Arts humor from Whistle Kick Martial Arts Radio

  • Martial Arts is Physiology, Psychology and Physics
  • Some techniques will work right away and others need to be developed
  • Honor your body and your style

Stay in Touch:

To learn more about our academy, Master Yourself Martial Arts in Titusville, Florida visit www.TitusvilleATA.com

Check out Maggie's personal blog On the Banks where she discusses her strategies for being a black belt parent and finding balance in her life. 

If you have questions or comments about today's episode, email us at TitusvilleATA@gmail.com or visit us on

Facebook @MasterYourselfMartialArts

Twitter @TitusvilleATA

Instagram @maggie.penton or @mr_penton

 

Special Thanks to our Black Belt Sponsor: Core Electric

Podcast 11: What do you want?

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On this podcast we discuss black belt parenting strategies, lessons we've learned from owning and operating our Martial Arts Academy, Master Yourself Martial Arts, and our love of Songahm Taekwondo.

We hope that whether or not you're a black belt, business owner or parent, you will join us on our journey to Master the Basics of our every day life!

This week, Maggie and Daniel discuss what they want from their Martial Arts training, their parenting and owning their business.

What do we want from our Martial Arts Training?

1.  It needs to be effective

2. It needs to have a moral foundation

3. It needs to be sustainable

4. Fun - T-Rex Sparring

Movie Recommendations: Kung Fu Panda 

What do we want as Black Belt Parents?

1. We want our kids to be happy, well adjusted humans

2. We accept that we will make mistakes, and we want to do well enough that our kids can afford their own therapy. 

3. We can't shield our children from discomfort and pain, we need to teach them to deal with it. 

4. There is a balance we need to seek as a parent between independence and obedience. 

5. We want our kids to be resourceful and be able to figure things out on their own

What do we want from our business?

1. We want to be doing what we love

2. We want to be doing what we're the best at

3. We want our business to support our family financially in a way that benefits both us and our community in a sustainable way

Book Recommendations: Good to Great by Jim Collins

Stay in Touch:

To learn more about our academy, Master Yourself Martial Arts in Titusville, Florida visit www.TitusvilleATA.com

Check out Maggie's personal blog On the Banks where she discusses her strategies for being a black belt parent and finding balance in her life. 

If you have questions or comments about today's episode, visit us on

Facebook @MasterYourselfMartialArts

Twitter @TitusvilleATA

Instagram @maggie.penton or @mr_penton

Podcast 10: Taking Stock

On this podcast, we discuss black belt parenting strategies, lessons we’ve learned from owning and operating our Martial Arts academy - Master Yourself Martial Arts, and our love of Songahm Taekwondo. 

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Welcome to our 10th episode! 

In our Martial Arts training, we often frame each new belt or rank of black belt as a new beginning. So, we want to think of our 10th episode as an opportunity to take stock. 

Black Belt Parenting Tips

  • We revisit saying what you want and using positive reinforcement.
  • Kids are often driven by needing to meet their needs and their desire to be accepted.
  • Take the opportunity to use positive reinforcement
    ex: when your child shapes up give them credit rather than hanging on to your frustration about their misbehavior
    ex: Make sure you praise the moments when your child chooses the right thing
  • Kids will give up on good behavior if they don’t get rewarded for it.
  • Appreciate that for a child, Attention is a NEED. If they’re not getting attention for being good, then they might be bad. 
  • When you give attention to a behavior, your feeding that behavior. You want to be cautious about the behavior you feed. 
  • Recognize that parenting is practice. Good behavior is behavior that brings us closer to our goals or is more align with your values. 

    Q) How do I improve my parenting skills?

    A) Give yourself more opportunities to work with kids - volunteer at a church, your child’s school, or in your child’s Martial Arts class! :) 

    

Perils and Perks of Owning a Small Business

  • Everything is the basics. 
  • Bringing your whole self to work 

    Parker Palmer - The Courage to Teach

    Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant - Option B

  • Failure vs. Floundering    

Body Types of Olympic Athletes

Our Love of Songahm Taekwondo

ATA Tribute to the Legacy of it's founder Eternal Grand Master H. U. Lee

Stay in Touch!

Please subscribe to us in Apple Podcasts or Google Play (and while you're there, feel free to leave us a rating or review it helps other listeners find us!)

Visit us on Facebook @MasterYourselfMartialArts

Check us out on Twitter @TitusvilleATA

Follow us on Instagram, Daniel is @mr_penton and Maggie is @pentonator 

And of course you can listen to all of our episodes online at mycoffedebreak.com/episodes

Podcast 9: There are no shortcuts, but we can be efficient

Welcome to the My Coffee Break Podcast where Maggie and Daniel - who are married, black belts, business owners and parents - discuss black belt parenting strategies, lessons they've learned from owning a small business, and their love of Songahm Taekwondo.

Where Naomi explains why she doesn't drink coffee.

Black Belt Parenting Tip: How to not be a Helicopter Parent

In our desire to help our kids protect our children from negative experiences, we can rob them of the skills they need to handle negative experiences. 

Instead - be a working partner with our kids so we can help them grow and develop, so they're ready to face the world

If you feel yourself hovering over your child, try asking yourself these questions:

  1. What's the consequence of letting your child fail?
  2. Is it reasonable to expect your child to be able to handle this task or challenge?
  3. Do they need help learning how to do this task?
  4. Is this a time to honor your child's struggle to help them build grit?
  5. Can you wait a minute and see if your child/children work it out themselves?

Tips:

  1. Let your child struggle
  2. Does your child need accountability or assistance? Make sure you don't "help" when what your child needs is accountability.
  3. Schedule a specific time for tasks like homework, cleaning, play, etc. That helps avoid arguing about whether or not to do it.
  4. Recognize what structure, accountability or space that helps you and your child be successful
  5. Think of yourself as a partner with your child and you're working together to help them be successful

When TO intervene:

  1. High Danger or risk
  2. When their needs are not being met
  3. When your child asks for help - try to figure out if there's a need or danger that they need help figuring out or navigating.

Lessons from owning a Small Business: Avoid Analysis Paralasis

1. When you take action, be sure to measure and track your results so you can continue or change based on your results (not your feelings)

3 Essential Elements of Every Small Business: 

  • Provide your community with a great service (or product)
  • Make sure your community knows you exist
  • Ask for compensation in a way that makes your business sustainable

2. Try thinking about your business as a garden

  • Rich and Healthy Soil 

What are the long term things you must do to make your business sustainable?

Treat people fairly, provide consistent and excellent service, improve yourself

  • Plant seeds
  • Water your garden
  • Recognize that the harvest is a season and winter is a season - and you need to be prepared for both
  • Give yourself a period of rest

Part 3: Where we talk about how much we <3 Martial Arts: Mastering the Basics

Just like sparring is the dynamic application of your techniques, living your daily life is the dynamic application of your beliefs.

  1. As you train in Martial Arts and go through your life, the basics don't change. Mastering yourself and your life are about getting better at the basics as you go through life. 
  2. Give yourself permission to try your best
  3. Give yourself permission to ask questions

You're fears aren't wrong, but they won't get you wear you want to go.

Just because something is basic, doesn't mean you're automatically going to do it perfectly every time without trying.

Try to be efficient, but recognize that there are no real short cuts on the path to success.

It's useful to review the basics - just because you've heard something before doesn't mean you've heard it with the experiences you've had today. You can always learn more - even about the simple things. 

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Visit us on Facebook @MasterYourselfMartialArts

Check us out on Twitter @TitusvilleATA

Follow us on Instagram, Daniel is @mr_penton and Maggie is @pentonator 

And of course you can listen to all of our episodes online at mycoffedebreak.com/episodes

Podcast 8: Back to School (for the first time!)

In the Coffee Break Podcast we discuss black belt parenting strategies, lessons we've learned from owning a small business and our love of Songahm Taekwondo.

Black Belt Parenting Strategy: Back to School Season

Tips:

  • Help your child get enough sleep.
  • Turn off screens well before bedtime. Why screen time before bed is bad for children.
  • Recognize that your child may have unpleasant experiences at school, but your child will probably be okay.
  • Resist the idea that your kid can make up for your education. 
  • The most important thing to learn in school is how to learn.
  • Resist the urge to think that school is the most "important" part of your child's life

Why Valedictorians Rarely Become Rich and Famous

Lessons from Owning a Business: Work/Life Balance

  • Schedule Time that is just for family
  • Make sure you have some time every day when you give your kids your undivided attention - where you're not doing anything specific. 
  • Use the time on your car ride to connect on your child's level
  • No Phones at the Table

Lessons from Martial Arts: Staying Safe on the Internet

  • Manage the time you spend online - choose to spend time rather than getting lost
  • Watch out bullies, predators and trolls
    • report, block, and get support
  • Remember that there's a World outside the internet
  • Make it hard for your kids to get to inappropriate content
  • Keep lines of communication open and judgement free - so your kids know they can come to you if they get into a situation that's difficult for them to handle
  • Don't sit down too long!

For further reading: Check out the work of Dr. Mary Aiken. Her book The Cyber Effect talks about the effects of technology on our behavior and children development. It's a fascinating read and has great tips for managing our use of technology.

Stay in Touch

Twitter: @TitusvilleATA

Facebook: www.Facebook.com/MasterYourselfMartialArts

Instagram: @mr_penton and @pentonator

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